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What on your Whishlist?

3/14/2023

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We all have a Wishlist.

Whether we admit it to ourselves or not, there's always something more we want out of life. But we go about getting what we want and creating the story of our lives in different ways.

There are essentially two scenarios to claiming your desires.

Which scenario sounds more like you?

1) (This is me!)

I have a hard time waiting for anything. I'm a pretty "immediatet results" kinda woman. I take action on what I want right away. I want to top? I buy it. I want to take a course? I register and do it.... 

But there are some things that are not 100% under my control. Like when and how my perfect new home will come to me. 

Or the timing of when my client will take that next step in her life or business, so we can celebrate her success. 

I'm on the side of the "Wishlist" equation where I've got to learn patience and trust. 

I have to learn to stay in energetic alignment with the truth that what I want is already on its way to me, without me getting all caught up in the "when" or the "how". 

I have to practice taking continued action without trying to force things to happen now, now, NOW!!!

I have to find ways to cultivate continued enjoyment of my life without shifting into the energy of lack, which has the effect of pushing what I want further and further away from me and delaying my eventual gratification.

That's my journey. 

So sometimes it's hard for me to imagine why anyone who has access to getting what they want now would wait, or put things off (but I do get it! And sometimes this other scenario applies to me too.)

Here's the flipside...

2) (This is the majority of people
)

I was reading reviews online about a pair of shoes I liked. 

In one post, a woman commented: " These shoes had been on my wish list for at least 4 years". 

She absolutely wanted them, and could sense how much joy they would bring to her life but said to herself "I could never justify spending that much on them."


Sounds like she had the money and desire.

So, why not get what you want????

Why deny yourself what you love (for years)?

Just to wait for your husband to spend exactly that much on the shoes you want and surprise you with them as a gift? 

It makes for a lovely story about a husband and a gift, but essentially it also means that from the beginning (4 years ago) they were indeed worth exactly that price.

If she invested at the time, she could have spent her life wearing and enjoying them rather than wishing for them, and coming up with reasons she was justified for not buying them (the energy of self-denial is energy otherwise used for self-fulfillment).

Maybe it took 4 years of waiting and wanting, for her to realize within herself that her dreams and desires would not go away (and this doesn't just apply to shoes! It could be the relationship you want, the business venture you won't take, the vacation you postpone, the weight you hold onto, the job you don't go for...).

Is that true for you? 

What are you waiting for to invest in your dreams? 

A sale where you save 10 or 15%? Is that worth years of your life not living in your bliss? 

When it's in your power, why not fully act now to create a life you love? 

You don't need to wait for your husband, the sale, the sky to fall down...to take action on your dreams. 

But it's all good either way if that's what you do. 

Neither scenario is right or wrong. Because life all depends on the story you want to tell and the experiences you want to have. 

In every moment, you're writing the story of your life. You have the power to shape it.

That's what I've learned through my life and through my clients. 

So, which scenario applies more to you? What story are you going to tell?

What's on your Wishlist?

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When you feel like shutting it all down

1/24/2023

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Here's what you can do...

When the emotions are coming on so strong and you want to erupt or shut down, rather than resist them... let them out!

Often, instead of experiencing our emotions, we get so scared of what will come of them, that we try to repress or deny them. 

In the end, those emotions will eventually come to the surface, but after having repressed them, they will erupt in a much less welcome way. 

We may start...

* Acting out. Snapping at people over the littlest things.
* Giving the silent treatment, because we're so upset or hurt and haven't processed our emotions
*Becoming physically violent, because we don't have other healthy tools to deal with our emotional upset
* Experiencing disease, chronic illness, panic attacks or other physical manifestations of our unprocessed emotional pain


Every time we stuff or deny an emotion, we add fuel to the fire of our inner unrest.

That's why INNER ACTIVATION is such an amazing approach. It unlocks massive mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual energy that's been begging for expression and release. 

It allows you to see yourself with clarity, and with that new awareness, you can take new actions.

In my life, I'm managing so many things that there are bound to be times where things go off track.

I've often experienced the desire to want to shut it all down. And I do! Sometimes I give in to the feeling for just a moment, or a few minutes. Other times, it takes me longer to move through. But always, when I give myself the space the feelings pass.

Two things are essential: 

1) Allow yourself to experience your emotions. Don't avoid, deny, or repress your feelings. They'll just wreak more havoc later. Find a safe space to offload and feel.

2) Have a plan to get back on track. This is where and why it's crucial to have a vision for the life you want. You need a reason to move forward so you don't stay stuck where you are. Those heavy emotions can take over and keep you shut down for good (or for a really long time!), if you don't have a vision to pivot to and pull you through.

That's the point of having a support system in place or being part of a program. It will help you to move through the rough times and leverage the energy of the good. As a result you can positively move through your emotions and keep creating and spreading more goodness in the world.

So when you want to shut it all down, give yourself a break.

Pause for a moment.

Literally, take a breath.

Take whatever time you can give yourself, even if it means taking a breath now and scheduling more time later.

Rather than just being focused on pushing through and denying your experience, make space to be true to you.

Your feelings matter. Just don't allow them to take the reins of your life without careful contemplation and intention.

A wild stallion is no good to itself, but a stallion with clear focus, direction and vision is unstoppable and a beauty to behold.

You got this! 


This is your life.

Go be your best you!


In love and light,
Debra


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The UPSIDE of Intentional Living

1/14/2023

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I was reflecting on how I don’t nearly talk enough about INTENTION, though it’s at the root of my business and everything I do. (I kind of take for grated that everyone knows the importance of Intentional Living).

Then I suddenly got an email that said:
  •  I want my time to be intentional. 
  •  I want my programs to be intentional. 
  •  My energetic practices to be intentional. 
  •  The mentors I hire to be intentional.

That’s my word for 2023: 
Intentional. 
 
I thought YEESSSS!!!!  

I got so excited thinking this person is setting themselves up for an AWESOME year!  

They’re just about to really find out, but I absolutely know that when you live intentionally, it changes your whole life. 

You get more of everything you want. Not by accident, but because you feel more aligned and alive, and you take actions that are a reflection of that energy.

Being intentional creates excitement about taking positive action in your life. 

You think clearer. 

You’re more confident.  

You make better decisions.

You use your time better.

You sleep better. 

Not only do you enjoy your experience of life more, you get more of the results you want.

Plus, you're more grateful for those results, which leads to even more enjoyment! 

It’s like magic.

Those are the results I’d love to see happen for you.

That’s a big reason why I created a business called iNTETNION first.

So this year, I want to invite you to make Intentional your word for the year too.

Or at least to intentionally choose a word for the year that will incite you to live with intention.

Go ahead and ask yourself: How can I bring more INTENTION to my life? 

(It may just start by choosing your word for the year).

There's a huge upside to living intentionally, so make this the year you do it if you're not doing it already.

Get excited for all the goodness coming for you
.

Happy INTENTIONAL 2023! 

 
In love and light, 
Debra

​P.S.
 If one of your intentions this year is to get aligned with the most clear, confident, energized you and experience new levels of success…

The INNER ACTIVATION Retreat is happening January 20-22, and that’s what we’ll be making happen together! I’d love to have you join us for this once-a-year event.

You can check out all the details here.

Debra Love
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The Medicine of Time

3/15/2022

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Hello love, 

How has March been treating you? 

What did you do with your time today? 

If you're reading this, I'm honoured that you're spending some of your time with me. Especially, if you're also in the same EST time zone and you may have found yourself missing an hour in your day, with the change of the clock moving forward.

We do our best to control time, but it's elusive, mysterious, mischievous....

Time takes us on a journey and teaches us to see ourselves through what we do when we think we "have" it. What we do when we feel we've "lost" it, or when we feel like it's slipping through our fingers like sand in an hourglass.

This is the Medicine of Time.  

It may hurt before it heals. Though even before the hurt, there may have been happiness (or else how would we know we were hurt?). 

With the finicky loop of time, it's up to us to find the treasures, the wisdom, the healing salve and the medicine of all of its offerings.

Time...precious, fleeting and eternal; what will you do with it?

I'm excited to share how you can make the most of it at my 3 Keys To Reclaiming Your Time, Energy, Power & Joy Webclass. I invite you to join me (
Click HERE ). 

In the meantime ;
), I'm wishing you a wonderful continuation of March. May your days be filled with more things that light you up rather than shut you down. Either way, may you find what you need you through the Medicine of Time.

In love and light, 
Debra
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What's Your Best Failure?

2/9/2022

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Hello Success!

Doesn't that have a nice ring to it?

Success is often easier to enjoy and accept, but there's something important we often overlook with "failures"...

Whether you meet success or failure, you first have to "do" something! 

If you failed, you didn't just "try". It means you actually took action on something you want(ed) (e.g. safety, security, health, a promotion, a new home, a relationship...any of those Intentions you set in January). So, Congratulations!! Whatever it is you want, you've gone after a desire or dream that actually means something to you. 

To "fail" also means you've put yourself on a path to success! 

So don't give up before the glory, my friend!!! Don't let "failure" trump your success!  Keep on doing things that will get you closer to where you want to be. 

Do and do again!

Move past past experiences. Adjust your goals when you need to. Respect where you are on your path and use discernment and strategies that will bring you more of your desired results. Connect with people who can help and support you. Surround yourself in high vibration, uplifting environments. 

AND... By all means, allow yourself to fail! Celebrate the success of taking action knowing it moves you closer to your goal, especially if you gave it your 100%. 

Keep giving yourself the love and kindness you deserve on your way to more and more success. If you have a tendency to beat up on yourself, give up on your goals, or give into limitations, know that activating love (for yourself, for your family, for the clients/customers/ industry you serve, for the product or services you create, etc.) will always put you back on your best path to success.

What you focus on will ABSOLUTELY come to you, so be intentional in claiming what you want, not what you don't. Maybe it won't arrive when you planned for it. And maybe not in the way you thought it would. But that success wants to be realized or else you wouldn't have felt the inspiration for creating it!

So keep on doing!!  Let your "failures" light you up as much as your successes. Let them show you what you can do differently. How you can grow and where you need to support yourself and give yourself love.

Go ahead and claim your BEST FAILURE! The one that really taught you something new. Maybe it's the one that you might still be learning from or have yet to leverage. But once you release or clear up any pain you associate with the failure, you'll start to see more and more of the world open up for you! February being the month of LOVE, this is a great time to do that and you surround yourself in love.  

Be open to shifting the thought of that failure into the reality of SUCCESS. Stay well, stay on track and be good to you.

In love and light, 
Debra
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​RISK OF LIFE

5/15/2021

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How dare you
Become your own version of yourself?
Unconformed and expansive
True to you
Respectful of all
But not deferential
 
How dare you
Step into your own shoes?
Treading a path uncharted
Shining your light
All along the way
Like a beacon and flame
Calling me to shine too
 
How dare you
Speak to me that way?
Curious with a foundation of love
Questioning
As if truth was a birthright
(yours and mine)
Not a privilege
 
How dare you be?
How dare you?
 
How dare I?
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What is Authentic Living?

10/4/2020

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Authentic Living is about living truth. Your truth. The truth that lights you up inside when you live it. It gives you energy and strength that sometimes surprises you. You feel so delighted by it that you can't help but smile. Only you can know what it is for you.

It's also a truth you feel within you so acutely, that when you ignore it, you also feel yourself cringe. It may be a tightening in your throat, your belly, or your chest. You may get a sudden headache, grit your teeth or clench your jaw. Whatever it is, however slight, you know it when you feel it. It's the internal indication that lets you know you've strayed from your authenticity. You know the truth is there.

And that's good news!!! Because if you can feel any of those of things, you know that Authentic Living is within your reach. You know your truth is available to you.

The real trouble comes when you've strayed so far from your truth that you're no longer willing or able to feel. When your justifications, rationalizations, or self-medications come so fast, that those guideposts of truth are numbed or imperceptible between your body and your mind. Sometimes all you want to do is hide.

Yet all is not lost. That just means you have more work to do to get back on track. Maybe what you need for a time is a break. Authentic Living is still an option.

Life is just a series of experiences and choices. All of which lead you to precisely where you need to be. Choose your own adventure.

The choice of Authentic Living just offers genuine fulfillment and  life-affirming love along the way. You also get to enjoy the freedom and ease of being your authentic self. Those are your rewards for doing the work of moving through pain and fear as you progress through life. If you want it, soul-satisfying joy also is there for you. 

This is your invitation to Authentic Living - Body, Mind, and Spirit. No B.S. here. Just truth. 

Keep it positive as you keep it real.

Let the Authentic Living journey continue!

In love and light,
Debra
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What the world needs now

7/9/2020

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I was recently writing an email to a friend and reflecting on what the world needs now. With so much unprecedented activity happening and so many shifts on a personal and global level, what is the world calling for?

While new people are coming awake to violence and pain that exists in the world, there are also many reaffirming a status quo that meets their need to preserve a sense of safety and security. Sometimes these two dynamics are happening within the same one person. That is the truth of humanity. We care complex beings with a mix of emotions and experiences.  

From a worldly perspective, there is no telling what is to come for sure and where the future will lead us. I do know the future is calling.

Is the future one where we will be hugging each other in person and not just virtually? Is it one where hugs will replace handcuffs, and healing will resolve fear?

I can't that answer for everyone, but I do have an answer about the future for me. I hear the same call I always hear. I hear the world asking for all it ever wants. You know what I'm going to say.... Love.That's what I consistently hear the world asking for. More love. Yours and mine.

Who doesn't need more love?

We don't give it when we think others don't deserve it. Even when it's all someone truly wants and needs in order to heal and start giving more love too.   

Loving is a simple idea, yet sometimes so hard to live. Especially if we've grown up where love means neglect, or pain, or punishment by its withdrawal. When we don't have any idea of what healthy love looks or feels like. 

Example: I am a proponent of "pro-", rather than "anti-" anything. My purpose is in creating the world I want to see, rather than fighting against what exists. I see transformation as the unavoidable outcome of love in action. No need to fight. I have seen that truth play out countless times (in real life, not just in movies!) And that's where I put most of my energy: in cultivating love in myself and supporting others to do the same. 
 
Love is no joke hard work (ask married people!), and it's also the simplest most effortless beautiful thing (ask married people!). Either way, the world wouldn't exist without it. So I invite you to keep reaching for it, exploring it, and showing it to the world. 

In everything you do, be love as much as possible.  
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In love and light, 
Debra
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    Both you ant the world are better, when you live iNTENTION first. You're at ease, clear and focused on living your dreams. I've spent over 15  uplifting and inspiring people to claim their power, get clear on goals, and cultivate a life they LOVE. It's my honour to be part of your life experience. 

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